Sasha White just can’t get into the whole Valentine’s day spirit. Not that she’s anti-Romance, mind you, because… dude, have you read Wicked, her latest Berkley Heat release (2 Jan 08)? No, it’s the BUSINESS of Valentine’s Day that irks her. This makes her our ANTI-CUPID. Read on…
Hi Everyone. My name is Sasha White … and I am not a fan of Valentine’s Day.
Yep. It’s true. I’m a sucker for romance, and chocolate, and flowers, and ermmm..indulgences of many kinds. I just hate that people business seems to have taken something that is supposed to be from the heart, and turned it into something that is from the wallet.
In my opinion, the commercialism and hype that surrounds this day has ruined it. Romance isn’t a getting flowers or chocolate, or having a fancy dinner out on a day when you’re told to have/do these things.
To me, Romance is getting these things when they are unexpected. When you’re thinking about a person and you feel the need to tell them – saying it with a card, or even a hunk of jewelry is all good. Things like waking up to find that your lover left you a little note when he went to work early, or getting flowers as a gift is all very romantic when it’s done just because.
The same things goes for pampering/indulging oneself. I’m single, and whenever I mention not being a fan of Valentine’s Day, I get told I need to ‘celebrate’ myself. Pamper me with a manicure or spa thing. Or with a dinner. Whatever. I’m a HUGE believer in doing this when I need it, and not caring what day it is. LOL
Don’t hate me. I’m just sayin’ we should indulge and celebrate romance whenever we can, not just because it happens to be a Hallmark Holiday.
Do you agree with Sasha? Has Valentine’s Day become all about the gifts and the sentiment has been lost? Do you celebrate Valentine’s Day? If so, do you do anything to keep the day all about Romance? 
Valentine’s Day has gotten rather commercialized as has many of our holidays. I agree with you that one shouldn’t be made to feel that one must do romantic things on one particular day. Was having this conversation with my husband a while ago when he expressed something similar and I replied, “If you only acted like you loved me once a year, I would feel very lonely.”
Most of us value the romantic acts we have experienced for the unexpectedness of it. The trappings can be fun but it is the everyday things that count for a lifetime. In fact, Jaci Burton and Shiloh Walker also discussed something similar in their posts.
That said, I like a day that celebrates love…chocolates, flowers, etc are strictly optional.
You know, Sasha, that’s exactly what I thought today when I went through Glasgow and Paisley, seeing left and right small booths selling commercialised (IMO) ugly flower arrangements and one pound red roses that probably came (frozen) from exploited workers in Africa. To be honest, I don’t go much for big holidays, I rather prefer having great parties or celebrations in respect of a special reason or dear person (except for Christmas, but we don’t really celebrate it in an overblown way). Some of my most romantic and beautiful moments I experienced either before or after Valentine, the day itself doesn’t mean a lot to me. It’s like Mother’s Day. Why celebrate your mom on that day and do a round of dish cleaning when you don’t support her the whole year through a bit with housework (assuming you are still living at home *g*).
Actually Sasha, I just got back from Wal-mart and it’s RIDICULOUS in there! People stomping each other just to get a stupid card! Ugh!
I agree with Sasha. Every day is a good day to buy oneself or another or to receive chocolates. I do use today as an extra reminder to treat my loved ones well all the time! Have a great normal day everyone.
I agree with you 100%. I’m pretty indifferent towards Vday. Loved the money heart though 😉 I’d be happy to get some of those valentines! Not only do I think Valentine’s has become incredibly commercialized, it’s a little sad how upset singletons get about this “holiday.” What a way to base your identity on being a couple and make singletons feel inadequate. Sad. Otherwise, I’m rather indifferent. I did enjoy getting treats at the bank though 😀
LOL YOu already know I agree!
There are many more people on your ‘side’ of this than you may think, Sasha–and not all of them are single either!
YAY! I thought I’d get tarred and feathered doing this post. I’m glad my thoughts came across clearly. Yes romance and celebrating Love is wonderful…I’m just tired of the commercialism taking over many holidays.
Glad you get what I’m sayin’. *grin*
Once we had kids it became a family celebration because to me the day is about the people you love.
I agree with you that romance is getting things unexpectantly or just doing things together.
Yep, I’m with you, Sasha. I don’t have a man right now but if I did, I want the two of us to celebrate it all the time. It dosen’t even have to be commerical. A hug when I need it, a book I’ve wanted, a phone call or email, all those things would be great. To just do it for one day is so passe.
i agree with you i need to write a summary about romance for my 12th grade expo comp class and i want to look for negative things about romance have any ideas???? it needs to be 2 1/2 pages long sooo please any ideas????