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SandyMWhen I am reading a book for review, I don’t usually read others’ reviews because I don’t want to be influenced.

Also, because time has a way of getting away from me for one reason or another, I don’t have a lot of time to check other blogs or sites and leisurely scroll through reviews. If there’s a book I’m interested in and I’m not sure about purchasing it, sure, I’ll take a minute or two to check it out, including reviews. But other than reviews by my TGTBTU-mates, I very seldom venture out in cyberspace for the express purpose of reading any.

But if for one reason or another I do wander through reviewland — a friend mentions a book she likes or even a specific review of a book she’s recommending or someone here at the blog will talk about one and my curiosity won’t be tamed, doesn’t really matter how — sometimes I’m simply amazed at what I read in other folks’ reviews.

You might see bad grammar or horrible punctuation. Or maybe the review is so lame it seems the reviewer couldn’t even have read the book. That’s nothing. What amazes me is the meanness, the hatefulness, the callousness with intent to hurt. It’s obvious that’s the reviewer’s purpose. They’re not leaving their opinion to benefit anyone, they want to malign and damage, all the while getting their three minutes of fame.

Now, don’t get me wrong. Everyone is entitled to their opinion. I agree totally. But what’s wrong with a little diplomacy when venting about another person’s work? There’s no need to stomp on it or degrade it, especially when the reviewer knows his or her words will also wound the author of the piece.

And that’s another issue with some reviews — the author is also trashed right along with their book. The author’s life, beliefs, antics, or anything else has nothing to do with the book being read and reviewed and should not be part of it. You don’t like something the author has said and done? Fine. Don’t read their next book. It has absolutely nothing to do with the current book you’re reviewing.

Some of you will say, “Well, an author needs to have thick skin” when reading reviews. That’s true. Not everyone is going to like every book they read. Even me (though Sybil will debate that!). I’ve given what I consider my fair share of bad grades here at the blog for those books that didn’t work for me. But I do try very hard not to be vitriolic in my discussion of why I didn’t like a particular book. I hope I’ve succeeded in that endeavor. At least I’ve never had an author tell me they were hurt by my words. Can an author ever truly be prepared for a bad review? Maybe. I know he/she is probably never prepared for a mean-spirited review.

If I give a book an F and tell why I feel that way, give examples of what’s wrong in the story in my most humble opinion, I think most authors would appreciate the effort and time I’ve taken in reading the book and writing the review. They may not like the F, and that’s fair. I probably didn’t like giving it. But when it comes to giving a book an F, one star, one rose, one coffee cup, one whatever and also calling the work trash, sacrilegious, it’s not worth the paper it’s printed on, don’t bother buying this book and so on and so forth but with no explanation of why the reviewer feels this way, what’s the purpose other than to be cruel? And why would someone do that? That’s the $64,000 question that may never be answered.

Though you can tell an author that reviews are not personal, that’s true only to a point. They obviously are personal because you are talking about that author’s creation, something they give their blood, sweat, and tears to. It takes maybe half an hour to write an intentional or even unintentional, hateful review. A reviewer should think about the review’s possible long-term effects. Any criticism is going to go down hard, but if that criticism is done tastefully, diplomatically, and honestly, it’s a different pill to swallow. I’ve told plenty of authors I’ve talked with that reviews aren’t personal, and though I may get an “I know,” I also get a look that tells me they’d still rather believe in the tooth fairy than such drivel I just spewed.

Is it easier to say mean things because the Internet doesn’t allow face-to-face contact; therefore, confrontation is nearly nonexistent? If an author attempted to contact the reviewer for a more in-depth explanation, would the reviewer even respond? Probably not. That reviewer has had his/her say, they’ve ripped the heart out of the book and the author, no need to face the consequences. I know we all remember our mothers telling us, “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all,” “Treat others as you would like to be treated.” So why don’t we practice that anymore?

Or is that just the way we are today in our society? I hope not. I hope there’s still plenty of people out there who do care about how others are treated, in person or online. Just because we don’t see the person we’re reviewing doesn’t mean we have to lose our humanity, our kindness, our compassion, our willingness to care about our fellow human beings. It doesn’t hurt or take any extra effort to write words that don’t sting or cut but still get the same point across.

Have you seen reviews out there that made you think, “Ouch, that’s mean,” “Wow, that person went a little over the top” or something similar? Are you an author who’s been the recipient of a mean-spirited review? Do you think I’m off base with this opinion? Do you have a differing one? Have you left a review for an author that crossed the line? Did you regret it later or did you feel you were spot on? Do the less-than-kind-hearted reviews out there make a difference? Should they be taken into consideration by other readers? Or should they be ignored if they contain no pertinent and only harmful information?

What have you got to say about it all?